Showing posts with label human motivation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label human motivation. Show all posts

Monday, June 9, 2025

The Young Woman's Part-Time Job

Many, many years ago, I wrote a story about a young, single woman in her 20s who, unlike many people today, worked two jobs.

However, her purpose was not the typical reason.

The full-time job was for her.

The part-time job was for everyone else.

With the funds from the part-time job, this woman ran a clothing closet and a food pantry out of her garage.

I don't remember her name or how long ago I wrote the story. But my office was the attic office in Channahon and likely before Ron and I started The Higher Ark Youth Group for our church.. 

So I'm guessing approximately twenty-five years ago.

Her story inspired me because it proved that one person through hard work can make a significant change. 

I don't recall why she chose to tackle this on her own. She may have run into obstacles that led her to simply fund it herself.

But that's how Ron and I got things done.

We rolled up our sleeves and made changes at our church.

Ron painted, using paint we bought.

Ron and the kids cleaned out, painted, and organized the pantry.

Ron stripped all the floor wax in the large and small halls and rewaxed everything.

I created an entire Sunday School program with our money, organized it, and paid for it.

We did the same thing for the youth group, remodeling three outbuildings (two garages and one attached wooden shed) on our property, hiring an out-of-work constractor to construct a fourth, and buying a shed for the "stuff."

The kids jumped in and stuffed Sunday inserts for newspaper carriers to help buy snacks and pop, etc. for the youth group.

At the start of the COVID-19 pandemic, a writer comrade contacted me and asked me to edit his second book. I'd always turned those opportunities down, mostly because my schedule was tight between family, my own writing work, WriteOn Joliet, my own fiction writing, and because editing is expensive, and I knew writers on the independent level would likely never make that money back, ever.

But he insisted he would not take "no" for an answer. So I took on this project and then a few more, charging far, far, far below industry standard rates, more of a stipend, really.

And that inspired the beginning of the book giveaways, including this book giveaway.

When my oldest son Christopher was born in 1982, we found few pamphlets by an organization called The Christophers that we began collecting for when he was older.

The Christophers had a motto that has always stayed with me: "It's better to light one candle than to curse the darkness."

Lighting one candle doesn't dispel the darkness in the world.

But it can light up a room enough to see.

Happy Monday!



 


Thursday, February 25, 2021

No Crows

So I was planning to share a cool video of crows I took a few weeks ago and now I can't find it.

And that, folks, was the blog I was planning to post today.

That now leaves me at posting time scrambling for words. So I'll just leave a few of them here and let you continue with your day.

It's been an adventurous week of procedures (one for my cat Midnight and one for me), the passing of someone from the community whom I really respected (which resulted in that being the last story I wrote before preparing for my said procedure, literally right up to the minute - I was honored to write it), and few unexpected and really precious blessings I didn't see coming.

But this is really the essence of life.

As much as we think we predict it with our schedules and routines, the next minute is not promised to us in the way we imagine it.

That doesn't mean we should sit at the end of our seats holding our breaths. I, for one, am not likely to get much done without a schedule and routine. Most of my life is done by rote because it gives shape and direction to my day.

And yet, how wonderful it is when life tosses a bit of wonder in our direction.

Don't you agree?






Wednesday, October 21, 2020

Second At-Home Writing Retreat of 2020: A View from the Midweek

I am not naturally a motivated person. 

It's true.

I'm not particularly ambitious, driven, and am, in fact, rather lazy. I'd rather read than write, and I'm most happy with my writings when they're done and I can read them.

I also like the grass on the other side of the fence - and my muse (Warren Peace) joins me in that view.

When I'm at work, Warren nudges me with great ideas for that next chapter in the novel. And I think, "Oh, I can't for the weekend until I can work on that."

But when I get to the weekend, or even when I have a wonderful opportunity to take not one, but two (so far) writing retreats in a calendar year, Warren keeps tapping me on the shoulder and saying, "Hey, wouldn't this make a great story for The Herald-News?" and "You really need to schedule this and this source?" etc.

Still, like most people, I do have goals and projects I'd like to accomplish. Unlike most people, I'm inclined to do none of them.

So I'm always parent and child and employer and employee to myself.

And I'm a fairly whiny child.

This is why I lay out the plan. And then I make myself do it. 

But making myself do it is always challenging because it doesn't matter what the activity is or how much I enjoy it, a more enticing one is always beckoning from the horizon.

Fortunately, my parent and employee don't let me slack off too much.

To keep me on track this week, neither one will let me get away with, "Oh, I'll just and see where I wind up." Nope, I have a schedule. And it's sitting at the left side of the keyboard.

On work days, I have a list with my daily and weekly must-do items sitting in the same place. I can't miss seeing it.

On fiction writing days, I have something similar.

For the record, I'm somewhat behind schedule. 

I had a great Friday night into Monday morning. Then Monday went slightly sidewise. I had a few non-writing things to address, and that particular chapter proved to be quite troublesome.

I came into Tuesday super tired and super behind. But through the miracle of coffee, perseverance, two minor kitty naps in the desk chair, and God mostly, I am heading in the direction of getting caught up.

Today I'm more rested, hopeful, and motivated.

I'm stressing the "hopeful."






Monday, June 8, 2020

The Best Post You'll Read All Week

Ever have one of those moments when the Holy Spirit appears to tap you on the shoulder?

I had one last week in the middle of an extremely busy afternoon on deadline. Immediately, I laid aside my other work and followed up on it.

I picked up the phone and called six black male pastors I had interviewed over the years and asked them one question: What are your thoughts regarding the death of George Floyd and the events that followed?

Four picked up the phone right away and talked a lot. Some talked loudly, some talked rapidly, some chose his words very carefully, not in any sort of political correctness way, but because, and I could hear it in his voice, think about the best way to express what he was thinking and feeling.

One called me back and set up a time to talk the following morning. And he talked for over an hour, which turned into a bit of dialogue between us

One never called back, although, to be fair, I didn't leave the question on the voice mail, just a requst to call me back.

Why did I call them?

Because they are leaders in their church communities and will have to continue addressing this issue, so I knew they could communicate the sentiments well for the readers.

Because they are objective enough to see all sides.

Because they are both rational and spiritual.

Because racism affects their lives and the lives of people they know.

And because since everyone seems to have something to say right now, I felt somebody ought to ask them what they thought.

Here are the responses, which, instead of one story, turned into five.


‘Truth will get you into trouble; truth will get you killed’
Joliet pastor challenges people to listen to each other

https://www.theherald-news.com/2020/06/07/truth-will-get-you-into-trouble-truth-will-get-you-killed/a9ljyp0/


'I have never gotten so frustrated that I felt like burning down Target'
Will County Board member says two wrongs don’t make a right

https://www.theherald-news.com/2020/06/02/i-have-never-gotten-so-frustrated-that-i-felt-like-burning-down-target/ajk1yux/


'At the end of the day, we're all broken people, right?'
#Joliet pastor says people need to take responsibility for racism

https://www.theherald-news.com/2020/06/05/at-the-end-of-the-day-were-all-broken-people-right/agucfft/


'Black people have been in an unhealthy domestic abuse relationship with America'
#Joliet pastor said the oppressors need to fix the problem

https://www.theherald-news.com/2020/06/04/black-people-have-been-in-an-unhealthy-domestic-abuse-relationship-with-america/aov3ksg/


'It's kind of like open season on the African American male'
Clergyman says real issue is flaw in judicial system

https://www.theherald-news.com/2020/06/02/its-kind-of-like-open-season-on-the-african-american-male/awfyaai/




Illustration by Matt Coundiff for "Visage."

Interestingly, this illustration occurs at the end of the book, which leads into the third book. "Staked! deals with the theme of righting wrongs.

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Human Motivation (and a Thoughtful Review)

I'm not even certain where to begin this post.

In fact, it's probably two posts.

As a writer writing to other writers, I could dedicate an entire post to the "whys" and "hows" of, when creating characters for a story, delving into their psyches and probing the motivation of all they do. That, to me, is part of the process to creating lifelike characters.

But when a reader writes to me and says students working on their doctorate in psychology could write a thesis based on the BryonySeries, because the characters are so well-crafted and complex, that means more to me than millions of copies sold.

Although millions of copies sold would be nice, too.

That same reader (at least on the summer side of things) is planning, once the cooler weather arrives, to re-read the Bryony trilogy and Before the Blood (eight books in all), making notes, and perhaps writing a thesis on it.

My response? I'll buy a copy!

The reason is less about being hungry for feedback on my work and more about learning the type of impact years of solitary work has made, on one person, at least.

That said, this same reader left a review on Amazon last night. I've posted it below.

I generally don't need motivation to write. But if I did, this review would do it.

Have a blessed Tuesday, readers, writers, and BryonySeries fans! :)


5.0 out of 5 stars

This prequel to the Bryony series solves some mysteries and creates even more

July 5, 2019

Format: Paperback

Verified Purchase

If you’ve read Denise Baran-Unland’s "Bryony" trilogy (Bryony, Visage and Staked!), you already know it’s a “vampire tale.”

If you’ve read it more than once, you realize it’s much more.

I’ve come to the conclusion that Unland’s series – in part - is a study of what motivates humans (and vampires) to do the things they do. Sounds pretty simple, right?

You may well ask, “Why did the author write eight books attempting to determine why people make bad decisions?"

Consider this: Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung spent decades of research attempting to understand why otherwise intelligent human beings make decisions that impact their lives so negatively. Unlike the aforementioned fellows, Unland has come scarily close to revealing exactly what drives human beings.

Before the Blood: Bryony Simons (BTB) is Unland’s fifth and final prequel. In the trilogy, Bryony Simons, nee Marseilles, has been dead for decades. Her spirit drives the characters, but we never get to know the real Bryony.

The prequels, BTB, Bryony Simons and BTB, Bryony Marseilles, give the reader the opportunity to know (and love) Bryony as a human being in the village of Munsonville.

(This last installment of ) BTB begins more like a fairy tale than Gothic horror. The girl on the brink of womanhood has no memory of her own long-dead mother. Her unrequited love for Owen Munson, her “cowboy,” ends tragically.

Her father preaches love, but is cold and absent. Bryony turns to beautiful Lake Munsonville for solace. She loves and identifies with the lake as she resigns herself to a life without true love.

Then, out of the blue, rich and renowned composer and concert pianist, John Simons, falls immediately and madly in love. At seventeen, Bryony knows little of love and is swept along in the current of his ardor. John Simons, a sophisticated man of the world, agrees to settle in the backwater village of Munsonville to make Bryony happy.

He builds her a mansion replete with servants and ladies in waiting. He dedicates a composition to her and has a hybrid flower named for her. He feeds her delicacies. He coddles and spoils her. John Simons’ entire universe revolves around the fragile young woman.

All is bliss and then it is not. The transition from joy to sorrow is gradual and insidious.

Those who haven’t read the trilogy may not immediately catch the underlying malignancy, but it’s there all the same. The choices all have made come back to haunt them.

There’s John Simons, who has made a deal with the devil.

And there’s the devil himself, Kellen Wechsler, who is ostensibly John Simons’ manager. In this tale, Wechsler is relatively low key and that’s not necessarily a good thing.

Henry Matthews - whose deal with the devil is pending - also appears. He lusts quietly for Bryony, sacrificing everything for the opportunity to possess her, even temporarily. His intentions are not evil, but that hardly matters in the scheme of things.

Of special note is Dr. Gothart, a nebulous character. The good doctor is always vaguely behind the scenes pulling strings and offering advice. The human condition seems to be a source of endless amusement to the good doctor. Whether he's a god, a demon or a fey creature, Dr. Gothart is terrifying.

Dr. Gothart’s “daughter,” Millicent, is far less subtle. Her jealousy of Bryony leads her to destroy the girl’s illusions of her beloved lake. As she sees her nurturing lake transformed, she's forced to reassess her own identity.

Unland’s Bryony trilogy and the prequels are cautionary tales. In each book, there are signs galore that read, “DANGER – DO NOT ENTER.” John Simons, Kellen Wechsler and Henry Matthews make conscious decisions to fly into the flames.

Bryony’s decision is more or less made for her. It may be argued that she never had a choice in the decision to marry John Simons. She was a hapless fly caught in a web of illusion.

The Bryony series is a masterpiece. These are not books to be read in an afternoon at the beach. Without a doubt, each book is entertaining - difficult to put down. However, the series is far more than the sum of its books.

I've read the trilogy four times. I've read each of the prequels at least twice. Still, I'm learning something new about the plot, the characters and the author.




Illustration by Kathleen Rose Van Pelt for "Bryony."