Showing posts with label It's Okay to Not Be Okay. Show all posts
Showing posts with label It's Okay to Not Be Okay. Show all posts

Monday, August 1, 2022

A Very Happy "It's OK to Not Be OK" Birthday

This past spring, Rebekah and I watched the Korean drama "It's OK to Not be OK," which is about a children's author with antisocial personality disorder, a young man dealing with past trauma who also works as a certified nurse assistant at a psychiatric hospital while caring for his older adult brother, who has autism.

The brother with autism is fascinated with dinosaurs and is very attached to his little stegosaurus Dooly. His brother, the CNA, also made "Mang Tae" for him, a little doll that chases away nightmares (the brother with autism has nightmares about butterflies).

The children's author also writes dark fairy tales, which are actual books in the series that are read onscreen. I LOVED these stories! They are dark, yes, but filled with simple, unexpected, and (sometimes) heartbreaking wisdom.

And now I own them, as well as my own Dooly and my own Mang Tae, thanks to Rebekah's generosity, although, as you will see, I think Mang Tae would GIVE nightmares rather than chase them away.

With each book and item I linked to a YouTube video in English, so you can see the context and "read" the books, too.

The books are written in Korean. So I can't read them without the videos.

First, here is Dooly.


And Dooly again.


And here is clip that shows how important Dooly was to the man with autism - and how the people around him misunderstood that interest.


And this is Mang Tae and a clip right here.



Now for the books.

Here is the autism's brother's sketchbook that shows his how he wants to make his brother's camping dream come true.



And one of his butterfly drawings as he tries to overcome his fear with the help of the doctor who runs the psychiatric hospital.



And now for the dark fairytale books.

The first is The Happy (or Cheerful) Dog. You can read the story with this clip.



Next is "Finding the Real Face." You can read the story with this clip. Start at the 1:50 mark (or not).



Here is The Boy Who Fed on Nightmares. You can read the story with this clip.




Here is The Hand, The Monkfish. You can read the story with this clip.




The last is Zombie Kid. And this is probably the most heartbreaking story of them all.




Wednesday, May 4, 2022

Words of Hope For Anyone Going through (or Has Gone Through) Challenging Times

As a family, we've gone through so many challenges, difficulties, and emergencies in just 2022, that we are struggling to keep up with them all.

But the other night, we heard some words of hope that I'd like to pass along to you today.

Regular readers of this blog know my daughter Rebekah is a fan of Asian entertainment, and she introduced me to Asian dramas a few years ago.

We are currently only two, maybe three, episodes into this one: "It's Okay to Not Be Okay." It deals with a nursing assistant in a psychiatric hospital who is also the caretaker to his older brother, who has autism.

The brothers move around alot because the autistic brother believes butterflies murdered their mother years ago (she was murdered), and they are coming for him, too. So when he sees the butterflies, they move.

Another key character is a chilren's book author with antisocial personality disorder. And this author writers some really dark stuff with dark illustrations. The autistic brother is a huge fan of her works.

Rebekah watched this drama when it came out a couple of years ago and recommended it to us. Two nights ago as we were watching it, she said, "Maybe I should have chosen something lighter."

But then something happened.

The caretaker brother picks up one of the books. The book was called, The Boy Who Fed on Nightmares. 

And the words were what we needed to hear.

The book is actually for sale on Amazon, but not in English. And readers on Goodreads praised it.

But you can see and hear an English version on this YouTube link.

So for anyone going through hard times now...

For anyone who's dealing with trauma...

For anyyone hurting, struggling, and wondering what's the point...

Here are words of hope for you today from The Boy Who Fed on Nightmares:

"Hurtful, painful memories. Memories of deep regret. Memories of hurting others and being hurt. Memories of being abandoned. Only those with such memories buried in their hearts can become stronger, more passionate and emotionally flexible. And only those can attain happiness.

"So don't forget any of it. Remember it all and overcome it. If you don't overcome it, you'll always be a kid whose soul never grows."